There’s a kind of heartbreak that words can’t fully capture.
Whether it comes through the end of a marriage, the sudden death of a loved one, a long-term relationship crumbling, or simply the deep ache of waiting for love that never arrived—loss in love hits differently.
It shakes your core. It rattles your faith. It tempts you to believe that the best is behind you.
But the God we serve is not just the Author of beginnings… He’s the God of restoration. He doesn’t just rewrite stories—He redeems them.
And love? Real love?
It’s not disqualified by your past. If anything, it’s being prepared in spite of it.
A Hope-Filled Journey from Heartbreak to Healing
“He has made everything beautiful in its time.” – Ecclesiastes 3:11
When Love Dies and Hope Goes Silent
I remember the day everything changed. After years of heartbreak, secrets, emotional exhaustion, and even battling cancer in the midst of it all—I stood in my home and knew: this chapter was closing.
The marriage I had held together with tears and tenacity was over.
I didn’t make that decision lightly. I had stayed longer than most would’ve. I prayed. I fasted. I hoped. But eventually, God showed me that loving someone doesn’t mean losing yourself. He reminded me that He is the healer, not me—and I could no longer carry what wasn’t mine to fix.
Scripture says in Psalm 34:18, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
And friend, that was me. Crushed.
Yet, somehow, still held.
Loss Isn’t Just an Ending—It’s an Invitation
When I left my marriage, I wasn’t thinking about new beginnings. I wasn’t dreaming of future weddings or answered prayers. I was focused on survival. Raising my daughter. Recovering my voice. Healing from emotional trauma that had silenced me for years.
But in that wilderness season, God began to whisper again.
Not audibly—but through His Word.
Through the stillness.
Through the reminders that He had not forgotten me.
In Jeremiah 29:11, He declares, “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.”
Even when I didn’t believe in love anymore, He believed in the purpose behind my pain.
The Season of Preparation
It wasn’t a quick fix. There were lonely nights and long mornings. There were moments I wondered if I’d ever laugh again—really laugh, the kind that bubbles up from joy, not just polite politeness.
But the Holy Spirit did what only He can do.
He didn’t just bandage my wounds—He restored my soul.
I dove into scripture like oxygen.
I started writing down what I was believing for—not just in a future spouse, but in myself.
I asked the Lord to make me whole again, not for someone else, but for His glory.
Isaiah 61:3 became my anthem: “To bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.”
I wasn’t waiting to be rescued. I was being refined.
And in that refining, God was preparing someone else too.
A Kingdom Connection, Not a Quick Fix
I wasn’t on a dating app. I wasn’t on a search.
Honestly, I was tired.
But in a way only God could orchestrate, He brought someone into my life who wasn’t intimidated by my past or overwhelmed by my testimony.
He wasn’t flashy or flirty.
He was steady. Safe. Grounded.
He loved Jesus more than he loved the idea of a relationship.
And he didn’t try to “rescue” me—he prayed with me. Encouraged me. And honoured me.
Our relationship wasn’t born from desperation—it was built on the foundation of mutual healing, honour, and purpose. We were both running after Jesus, and met along the way.
Proverbs 3:5–6 came to life in that season: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.”
The path wasn’t straight at first. It was winding, painful, and uncertain.
But it was purposeful.
Steps to Take While You Wait for Restoration
If you’re reading this with tears in your eyes because you don’t see a way forward—can I encourage you with what helped me walk through it?
1. Return to the Word
Let God’s promises become your compass. Memorize verses that remind you of His faithfulness:
- Psalm 147:3 – “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
- Isaiah 43:19 – “See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?”
When your feelings lie to you, the Word will anchor you.
2. Write the Vision (Habakkuk 2:2)
Be bold enough to write down what you’re believing for. Not just a list of “qualities” but character, calling, and companionship.
Pray over it daily.
Let it align with God’s standards, not culture’s compromise.
3. Don’t Settle in the Silence
Loneliness is not a permission slip for compromise.
Use the waiting season to grow—emotionally, spiritually, even physically.
I got back into worship, embraced creativity again, and started showing up as the woman I knew God had called me to be—joyful, radiant, bold.
4. Stay Surrounded by Life-Givers
You can’t heal in isolation.
Find godly friends, spiritual mentors, and wise counsel. Let people speak truth when your emotions scream lies.
Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 says, “Two are better than one… If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.”
Find your “one-anothers.” Don’t do this alone.
If You’re Still in the Middle of It…
You might be reading this and thinking, “That’s nice for you, but I don’t see a way forward.”
I get it. I’ve been there.
But let me leave you with this:
God is not punishing you.
You are not forgotten.
And this wilderness is not yours forever.
Ruth didn’t find Boaz by chasing him. She positioned herself in obedience and faithfulness, and God orchestrated the encounter.
He’s still the same God who redeems the widow, restores the broken, and calls forth beauty from barren places.
Trust His timing.
Trust His heart.
And don’t you dare give up on love just because the last chapter hurt.
Boaz Blessing for Today:
Father, thank You for being close to the brokenhearted. I give You the pieces of my past, the wounds of my heart, and the timelines I don’t understand. Heal what’s broken. Restore what’s been lost. And help me trust that You’re working all things together for my good—even in this. Amen.